A TRIUMPHANT AND INTERESTING EVENING ABOUT A TOURIST

Well, my first time with my swanky Mac outside.

I figured since I had brought it along, I'd save some time typing some posts on my long journey home from Liang Court.


I've always been wondering, am I a player?

I don't think I am. And if I give off that vibe, i think i'm doing a bad job maintainin the status.

I was wondering this when I was at work. Somehow, the people in the industry give off the vibe that sleeping around is very much an acceptable thing. The only diff is whether one is paying for it. So far, I haven't heard much stories about people sleeping around with someone else but more of them overseas sex trips.

I dunno. Somehow paid sex just doesn't entice me. Somehow, I guess I feel that the chase is really part of the whole package of excitment. Thrill of the hunt maybe? Yes, I do lament sometimes how I hate the whole fiascos of buyin people drinks and what nots. But if I wanted to live the screwing around life, somehow, that'd be how I imagine myself doing it.

I mean, dun get me wrong, offer me free sex I'm all for it. Of cos, it depends on my relationship status and my morals at that point in time as well. And mood probably. Cos u noe, gettin intimate withs someone totally strange can be quite weird. But as always the question, give you someone like Nicole Kidman or Maggie Q (dependin on your taste in women) you want or not?

But seriously, this whole paying for sex bit just ain't my thang lah. Tho I've been told that it'd be a different ball game when I start workin cos apparantly, it's quite the norm.


Anyway, a highlight of my week. I managed to chat up a Chinese National who was holidaying in town but is stationed in Japan. Chatted her up while i was at work cos I was supposed to be lookin after some stuff while the rest went on another assignment. So I was at them tourisy shops (part of the job) and well, she was sitting on the sofa so sat down beside her cos the stuff I was to be lookin after was directly opposite.

(ok, i'm typing the rest at home... hafta eventually get down from the bus, no? )

I eventually spoke to her askin if she was tired cos it seemed she kept dozing off. Well, least from the corner of my eye, she seemed to be anyway. Then she asked if I could speak 'Guo Yu' which i'm guessin is Mandarin and that's where everything went haywire sia. As YL said, duck and chicken toking. Anyway, nothing happened. She was leaving to go back Japan in an hour and well I was working so that kinda shot down anything that might even enter my brain at tt point in time.

But I learnt quite abit from that experience.

You know, all those times where we as guys try to shimmy ourselves next to a girl and really grasp at air for a decent conversational topic? Trying too hard. Fatboy would agree with me on this. It's all about pickin your battles rather than going at every one of em. Of course, i used to do that. Shoot arrows all over the place and get lucky and land one. Sometimes it's all about choosing the right situations. Of course, soemtimes it's tricky and you'll never know what THAT is till you try for it.

Another thing I learnt or rather got reminded of was the art of flirting. Mind you, I wasn't the one doing it. :s But I realised the effect of it. Of course, more clearly when the event ended. She had said 2 twos. One was how the local boys were, in her way of trying to pronounce handsome, Hun sum (schizo asks which part she's been walking around, when I todl schizo about it) But anyway, I saw tt as a shot at me. Two was that she doesn't talk to anyone and only when there's a connection or feeling or what not.

These two things sought to lower my guard, I felt. Smeoen did ask how. And i THINK is such that I do not see her as a threat if anything. Cos once someone compliments, you immediately lower yourself and be modest about things. I mean a stranger lah.. not a friend friend sorta person where you can just ratlle off 'of course I'm good' or something like tt.

I mean, when I looked back at and analysed the situation. I realised the key thing was not to let your guard down too much and be able to identify them stuff that soughts to make you feel 'special' which I feel is what flirting does anyway. Some of us need affirmations more than others and revels in this sort of attention where people tell them how good they are. I'm not sayin it anything wrong but one has also gotta have his feet planted on the ground and be able to analyse himself in his own eyes and whether the thinks that way about himself based on HIS own standard. not just everybody else's.

Of course, all in all. She could be someone who was just trying to be nice and chatty (she was anyway, cept I didn't understand her half the time :p ). Who's to say she ain't thinkin that I'm some local dude trying to bonk her. Anyway, I might be over analysing. Just thought it was an interesting experience and learnt quite a bit from it. The key thing is not to try too hard and be able to let things go and not seem desperate. Very much like fishing. Dangling the bait a bit... Teasing a lil, that sorta vibe. ;)

Of course, funnily enough, the crew was earlier bio-ing her for her toned body or soemthing (i couldn't tell and didn't manage to check her out in that way, just that I felt she was checkin us out or maybe just curious). Anyway, while I was gettin her contact, one of the crew came back and was wondering what was happening. :p needless to say, my points went up in their eyes. Make up for the lack of sex tour stories (I was quite most of the time when they were exchanging victories :p )

Anyway, I managed to take a pic of her so check her out on my usual photo site. ;)