Marriage...

It's the bane of every man. Most of the time anyway. Sheesh.. the damnation of it. just today, was tokin breifly to jack n X about that. And this evening, Y messged sayin tt maybe we should. And I"m like huh :

Im like wtf lah...

Sheesh.. I dunno man. I was never an advocate of marriage. Much less now when I don't think I'm really ready for it financially much less emotionally or mentally.

Was prompted to read this article about women submitting to men in marriage.

It goes along the lines of always giving the husband the respect that he needs and all tt. Always serving and all. Bring him his shoes, tt sorta thing. And the husband in turn gives the wife the stability and roof she needs over her head. I mean, I can dig all these stuff.

But I don't quite agree. I feel tt it needs to be a mutual thing. i don't think it should be one sided. I always tried to believe in equality. Which sometimes i feel myself lackin in my r/s. But lately, been trying to put things in perspective and actually seein things clearer from her side. I always think tt no one thing should be held responsible to one person but to both parties. it is afterall a partnership.

But, somehow, I still hold myself responsible for the structure of a family. True, often i preach tt a sex shouldn't be stereotyped for a particular role but I still feel it my responsibility to at least support my family before even thinkin about marriage. IE to say, till my career stablises n i'm more certain. BUt then again, maybe my career will never be stable. Then if given enuff years, it's really up to her. But maybe before tt, she should at least know abt the possiblity of that lah. Maybe the discussion is eventually inevitable...

BUt I guess the amazing thing abt her is in spite of knowing all these, she still chooses to stick with me. Weird if you asked me. I always thought it's cos she didn't really get what she was getting herself into. Well, maybe she does. Who knows.