We all have needs. Some have physical, some have emotional and some have interllectual needs.

I've come to realise that it's very difficult to remove these needs and it must be fulfilled one way or another.

In the past, I may have tried to realise these needs through my partner. But as time passes, I realise this as an impossiblity for it seems to create more harm than any good. And besides, it wouldn't be fair to instill my wants and needs on her tho some might argue that that's what she's there for.

So rather than create something out of nothing, I choose to seek these needs somewhere else. I no longer wish my partner to be what I want. I choose to find my need elsewhere where someone is able to provide it better so that this void is filled. This way, my partner doesn't have to feel the pressure of steppin up to an expectation which might not be easy for her.

Some might be quick to assume what kind of needs I'm talkin about but what I say is general and could be anything. It could be a sexual fetish, it could be a nice chat about work, or some understanding and emphathy on what is going on in life, or maybe even talkin about life itself. Or, it could be just for a hug.

Question is, is it wrong if one seeks to gratify a need? For if we look at it generically as a 'need', is it any more wrong that one satisfies his sexual appetite as compared to someone who satisfies his intellectual craving for a intelligent conversation? They are afterall, needs.

Is one party cheatin more than the other?

Would it be cheating if one party turns to a girl for a conversation? Would it be cheating if one party turns to a guy for physical comfort? Can they be blamed? And if a guy controls his urges just so to stay faithful does it mean it's faithfulness for a girl if she doesn't seek another guy for comfort? And if one needs just a simple talk, is it wrong to seek an opposite sex for it? Shouldn't your partner be the outlet?

I keep seeing over and over again how much couples mistrusts each other. How they check upon each other. I see marriages flawed over time and it's not just decades but even just a year or two and when I reflect upon my own relationship, I question if it's that way as well. Am I really to be blamed for her mistrusting me? Am I really the one failing to give security? Is she doing a darn good job at securing my trust so much so that after all the times, I still stand by her, thinkin that she is never out with another guy? Or am I underestimating her ability to do so? I don't deny that sometimes I do wonder, but I pride myself for never letting it affect me or my actions.

Are things going anywhere? I wonder. Are they? Or is it just going in a merry go round?


Everything In Its Time - Corrinne May

Sometimes I wonder what lies ahead.
How long till my hunger is fed.
They say it's hard to make it in this part of town.
So many people on this merry-go-round

Some folks try astrology
Some turn to crystal balls
To find an answer,
To get through it all.
I just fall on my kness and I try to pray
In the silence I can hear Him say

The river runs and the river hides.
Out to the ocean and under the sky.
I promise you, the answer will come.
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign.
Everything in its time.

I often feel like I'm two steps behind.
Somebody must have moved the finish line.
There are a thousand reasons
Why I should give up.
But I'm stubborn in the things I believe.

The river runs and the river hides.
Out to the ocean and under the sky.
I promise you, the answer will come.
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign.

'cause maybe there's another plan.
One I still can't see
A little surprise, like your love in my life.
Funny how time changes how we see.

The river runs and the river hides.
Out to the ocean and under the sky.
I promise you, the answer will come.
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign.
Everything in its time.
Everything in its time.