no time to blog so here's some stuff for u guys to think abt... Noe sometimes, some of us are guilty of this but feel that being able to survive alone is a step to suriving with others.

A SLICE OF LIFE


Like Someone in Love

Being old and alone can be a very scary thought. No matter how comfortably you are right now in the prime of your life, or how successful you are in your career… that thought has no doubt confronted you before. It probably continues to haunt many of us throughout our lives.

Many people attempt the wrong methods to avert the possibility of ending up old and alone. We immerse ourselves in our work and careers, believing that what we don't have the time to think about can't hurt us. Or we move from one likely prospect to another, without really ascertaining whether what we feel inside is really love… or simply a fear of being alone.

Strangely enough, the more we look for love, the less of it we find. And if our hearts are stubbornly fettered, and we don't even know how to love ourselves, it is very likely that we will not be able to love others.

Even if there is no one at the moment to share your life with, that doesn't mean that your life cannot have meaning. If you are emotionally independent, and are able to find happiness and fulfillment within, you don't have to look for that special someone. That special someone will find you. Very often, you will find each other.

But the mindless pursuit of love can be very destructive. Especially if you're not sure if you truly love someone, or are just desperately trying to possess him or her. Because when you love someone, you are no longer important. Your feelings don't come first. But that cannot come about if you are simply looking for somebody because you need someone in your life.

So if you are without someone to share your life with at the moment, or if you've recently broken up with your partner, don't despair. Don't hole yourself up at home. Don't avoid your friends.

Love comes at the most unexpected times. You can't plan a timetable for love. All you can do is to open your heart, and truly try to understand and care for people. And very often, that's when love comes knocking on your door… or more realistically, that's when it jumps out from a corner, whacks you in the head with a bat and sends you reeling in surreal ecstasy.

And so yes, being with someone you love can be a magical thing, but don't let the dread of being old and alone motivate you to find or hold on mindlessly to someone.

WRITTEN BY EUGENE LOH

Presented and Produced by Eugene Loh
Weekdays at 7:55 am, 12:55 pm, 2:55 pm, 6:55 pm
Sundays at 6:05 am, 7:05 am, 8:05 am, 9:05 am, 1:05 pm
NewsRadio 93.8, a station of MediaCorp Radio

To listen to the past week's programmes, visit:
http://newsradio.mediacorpradio.com/asliceoflife.htm